“Make use of humor”
To be good-humored does not mean to play the clown and become the court fool.
Neither is it a synonym for vulgarity. If you strive to avoid gross word plays and learn how to take good advantage of your own circumstances to see the humor in them, you will always find someone willing to join you in conversation. Refined irony combined with implied information will show respect for the sensitivity and perception of those who talk to you, and will highlight your
intelligence, brightness and intellectual refinement. In fact, the subtly of a witty remark can be used according to the background and intellectual level of the person you are talking to. Be careful: even
if the circumstance seem to open the door for the use of vulgarity, do not fall into – you will never profit from a attitude. There is a subtle frontier between humor and vulgarity and where you draw the line depends on the listeners' characteristics and the context in which you are.
The closer you step to this line, the better-humored you become, but the risk of slipping into vulgarity grows accordingly. This means you can never be sure where the line is actually drawn, so it is advisable to maintain a safe distance from it. Better not to be as funny as you could and remain on safe ground, preserving your image and keeping the respect of others, than to cross the line; this might perhaps win more instant success but may also represent a miscalculation which makes
you appear vulgar.
From: Super Clues for Speak Well: In Talks And Presentations by Reinaldo Polito
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